“Please help me reconcile with my ex-girlfriend!” If she’s not willing to hear things from you then you need to call in help. A break-up is a difficult time for everyone, and especially when there are mutual friends involved. If things are allowed to escalate too far then it will quickly become a situation where friends have to select sides. And this sucks. Find someone who is a mutual friend and explain the exact circumstances to them. Let them know you are still in love with your ex and would really like to talk with her to sort things out. Then give them the space to do it. The right time may not arise immediately, and this friend is doing you a big favor here. You should also not be offended if they say they are not prepared to do it.