Co-parenting isn’t easy. It’s actually quite a chore. When neither parent is willing to negotiate or communicate, the child has the job of transitioning from one parenting style to the other.good parenting As a parent educator and family therapist, I have seen many anxious and confused children affected by their parents’ inconsistent rules and styles. Your first job in becoming a successful co-parent is to figure out your general style and motivations.I understand that you might feel vulnerable sharing your style and motivation. Your style may be different than your spouse’s style. Now that you have looked at each other’s parenting style, take a look together at good parenting books and the current research.